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Do married men miss their mistresses? Yes, a married man will miss his mistress because they provide an outlet for physical and emotional needs that aren’t being met in their marriage. Unless the wife realizes what’s happening and is able to provide what’s missing, the husband will continue to seek out his mistress and the cycle will continue.
More than 74% of mistresses would agree to fulfilling many desires a man may not be able to express to his wife, such as sexual fantasies or intimacy levels that are higher or lower than what his wife is comfortable with.
46% of wives i have talked to in my practice, underestimate how important sex is to their husbands. This is scary.
A mistress can provide a sense of excitement that may be lacking in a man’s life, making him feel more alive and virile. If a man feels trapped in his marriage or is no longer attracted to his wife, he may turn to a mistress for the attention and affection he craves.
Mistress often provides an emotional connection that a wife may not always be able to provide. The man may feel like he can talk to his mistress about things he couldn’t discuss with his wife and this could lead to him feeling increased intimacy with her.
How one expect a man to just loose such connection with someone he has been seeing for a long time is beyond word?
So yes married men really miss their mistresses
Even though he may not admit or later act on it, a married man will miss his mistress, sooner or later. It is bound to happen.
Why would a married man miss his mistress?
Married men are still men. Like any other man, when he emotionally gets involved with a mistress , he will miss her.
The real reasons why he will miss his mistress are varied and personal but to know for sure what makes a man desire his mistress, you need to be a mind reader.
However, here is a list of the most common reasons why a married man would miss his mistress.
Common reasons why men miss their mistresses
It’s hard to say without knowing the specifics of each situation, but there are a few reasons why a married man might miss his mistress.
1. Emotional connection that a wife may not always be able to provide.
A mistress provide an emotional connection that a wife may not always be able to provide (emotional affair). The man may feel like he can talk to his mistress about things he couldn’t discuss with his wife and this could lead to him feeling increased intimacy with her.
This leads hid him to miss his mistresses because he loves her. When you love someone, you want to be with the person you love. Likewise, he misses you because of his affection towards you. My 14 Secret Signs a married man is falling in love with you will give you more knowledge about how to know if he is falling in love with you.
2. He cares for his mistress.
A man can’t have an affair with you and not care for you to some extent. This is especially true if the affair was more than just a physical fling.
If the man truly loved his mistress, then it’s only natural that he would miss her after the affair ended. Even if the man didn’t love his mistress, he may still miss her if she meant something special to him.
Because he cares for you, he is concerned about you and your well being. Being away from you makes him wonder if you are doing okay.
If your whereabouts and safety are occupying his mind, it won’t be long before he starts to miss you; after all, you are on his mind.
3. His wife is giving him a hard time.
Another common reason a married man misses his mistress is his wife is giving him a hard time.
If the man’s wife is constantly nagging him or if they’re always arguing, then it’s understandable why he would want to spend time with someone who makes him feel good. even if that someone is his mistress.
We all know wives tend to nag even be troublesome sometimes. If his wife is problematic, he may start to long for a calm demeanor clinging onto mistress relationship as an escape from his life.
4. He enjoyed the company of his mistress.
A married man would miss his mistress if he enjoyed her company. If he always looked forward to their time spent together, whether it was simply talking or something more physical.
He will definitely miss her if he loved the way she made him feel, and he was grateful to have her in his life. Whenever he was with her, he felt like he could conquer anything.
When a man, married or not, enjoys being around a woman, it is only natural to miss her when she is away.
5. He’s horny
Sadly, this is the bitter truth. Mostly, if your relationship were purely physical, you would cross the man’s mind when he is horny. He might even reach out, hoping to get some sexual healing.
Why do men have mistresses?
Many people get married or cohabitate when they are still in limerence or infatuation. They often times do not give a relationship a chance to turn to true love or in some instances feelings fade.
When a couple cohabitates too soon and what they feel is not love, they don’t just leave. They try to make the “feelings” come back.
Over time they realize they just do not really love their partner and feel they want better for themselves. They eventually meet someone and normally don’t even intend to cheat or develop feelings but it happens.
So they end up having an affair because they feel guilty leaving someone who never actually did anything wrong, they just aren’t in love with them.
Signs that a married man misses his mistress.
Men are programmed to mask their emotions. It may be challenging to know when he misses you because the chances are that he will try to hide it from you.
Worry not, emotions leak clues here and there, so here are subtle signs that your married boyfriend misses you but is hiding it.
Seven subtle signs that a married man misses you.
1. He calls you more than usual.
Has he been blowing up your phone? Is he calling you more and more every other day? Yes, you guessed it, he misses you.
He answers your texts immediately.
Men are busy creatures, busier if he is married. If a married man is answering every text of yours as though he was some high school kid. With all the time in the world that screams, I miss you.
2. He shows up.
When he starts appearing up at your place or workplace uninvited, it is because he missed you so much he had to see you.
3. He sends you thoughtful gifts.
Has he sent you gift(s) which you know that only a person who has been intently observing you would think?
Maybe you told him your favorite toy growing up was a panda, and he sends you a human-size panda. He also noticed how much you love paintings, so he sent the most beautiful artwork you have ever seen.
If he is taking time to personalize the gifts he sends to you, that is another way of saying that I love you and miss you so much.
4. He talks about you.
“Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.” If he talks about it means you’re on his mind, which means he misses you.
If a man shows the signs above, even if you don’t get a confession, he is guilty of missing you.
Would a married man ever reconnect with his mistress if he misses her?
Dating a married man is problematic; you never know what to expect. Will he reconnect with you after you break up, or will he go and never return? You can’t say for sure.
Some men do, but others don’t. Even though you cannot predict if your married man would reconnect with you, there are things that you could do that would increase your chances of getting him back.
Here is a list of tips to make a married man reconnect with you.
How often does a married man think about his mistress?
Research has shown that men tend to think about their mistresses more often than they admit.
Generally speaking, a man who is having an affair will think about his mistress anywhere from 10-60 times per day.
It’s safe to say that most married men think about their mistresses regularly, particularly when they’re not getting the attention they need from their wives.
Many married men find themselves feeling unsatisfied and unfulfilled in their marriages, which can lead them to seek out affairs with other women. And while it’s usually not advisable to have an affair, it’s understandable that some men may feel like they have no other choice.
Affairs can be risky and damaging, but sometimes they may seem like the only way for a man to get the emotional connection and attention he needs.
In my How often does a married man think about his mistress? I talk about this topic in-depth. Please check it out.
If a man is generally happy with his marriage but had a one-time fling, he’s likely to think about his mistress only occasionally.
On the other hand, if a man is deeply unhappy in his marriage and is actively pursuing an affair, he’s likely to think about his mistress much more
It all depends on the man’s relationship with his wife, his level of satisfaction in the marriage, and his overall level of commitment to the relationship.
Four ways to make a married man reconnect with you
1. Respect the no contact rule.
Cutting all contact works magic and wonders for you. It makes him realize how easily you could dispense him, and that crap scares man.
He then decides to up his game to keep in your good graces.
2. Look good, always. You never know when the man is looking.
Men are visual, so if you look ravishing when he steals glances, there is no way in hell he is keeping his eyes and hands off that. At least not for long.
3. Be pleasant.
If you meet him in person, be cordial and pleasant. You lose nothing by being friendly and agreeable, but you get his respect and admiration and his devotion later.
5. Get in shape.
Exercise is excellent for you, but also most men would kill to have a fit woman. You look so much better when you get in shape.
After having executed the tips above you have done, sit back and wait for your man.
However, if he still doesn’t, you will be in the best place emotionally and physically than you have been for a while. So it is not wasted.
What do married men do when they miss their mistresses?
Married men deals with emotions differently. He can move on with his life irrespective of what emotions he feels or stay in pain trying to pretend he is strong without but when he actually hurts.
Men are logical, and even though he misses you, which he will, if there was an emotional connection, he won’t necessarily reach out.
On this subredit a couple of men actually admits missing their mistresses.
Kind of. I am deeply in love with my AP, who I have been friends with for a little while. I think if she told me she loved me back (I suspect she does), I might make a few big decisions.
It has also ruined how I feel in my marriage, not that there was much feeling there anyway, but I definitely don’t feel the same about my wife.
However as time has gone on I’ve realised that I don love my wife anymore and that I only wanted to stay for the kids and to save face. I miss my mistress so much. I moved jobs after it all came out and find myself parking up next to my old work just to try and catch a glimpse of her.
I think she is still single but dating and it kills me to think of another guy being with her, or her getting married to and starting a family with someone else.
Men have a more extraordinary ability to think categorically, so he will do the most logical thing: staying with his wife, albeit feeling the opposite.
While some men may reach out when they miss you, incredibly when convenient for them, the majority will brush it off and move on with their lives.
How do I make a married man miss me?
Suppose you want to make your married boyfriend miss you, maybe to make him come back to you or get his attention. Whatever your motive to get the man jealous, here is a list of strategies you can employ to make green-eyed.
Strategies to make a married man miss you
1. Go cold turkey on him.
Cut off ALL contact and abruptly—calls, texts, social media, even physical. Give him time to miss you by going MIA.
2. Be disinterested in him.
I know you might have feelings for the man, so being disinterested may be challenging, so act. Even if you have to fake it, so be it.
He needs to fear that he is dispensable at the snap of the finger, and feigning disinterest will do just that.
Men are scared of not having what they want.
Go out with your friends, take pics and post them. Have your life y=looking great online but most importantly, genuinely try to enjoy your time without him.
Seeing you looking happy without him will remind him of how happy he made you. In the end, it will make him miss you.
4. Incite jealousy
Get an old friend to act interested in you. Some men like their women to be desirable to other men. He feels better knowing that different men want he has.
Also, seeing this potential successor of him around, you will make him jealous. Jealousy is the mother of other emotions, including the longing for someone. Either way, you win.
6. Have a signature scent.
Whenever he smells your scent, he will immediately think of you even if it is on another woman. So get a signature scent and stick to it.
While you can’t force a man to miss you, the tips above will make it easier even for the most emotionally detached man to miss you.
Read: Miss me spell
Do married men miss their mistresses —quotes.
1. “Married men are sweet poison, he preys on your very life. Let him in at your demise.”
2. “He said he was leaving his wife, didn’t he? I hate to break it to, but he lied. They never leave.”
3. “True love is action, if he missed you too, he would pick the damn phone and call, but your man hasn’t, has he?”
4. “Don’t expect to be treated like number one when you are number two.”
5. “A mistress is a queen of ‘almosts.’ She almost has the man but not quite. She is nearly the wife but not entirely.”
Even though it sometimes happens, rarely, a married man goes back to their mistress after they broke up, but sometimes it happens.
It depends on the nature and circumstances of your relationship. The fact man will come back to you when your relationship is over.
No, most men do not leave their wives. I know it sounds ironic that they approach you under the guise that they will leave the wives, but the reality is that they never.
In any case, should he leave his wife for you, he is three times more likely to leave you for another. You wouldn’t want such a kind of man, would you?
Yes, he can because falling in love has nothing to do with whether he’s married or not, or whether you were married or not.
Love is just love. It happens where it chooses so that a married man can fall in love with a married woman; it happens all the time.
Yes, you see, love is a very complicated emotion. Cheating has nothing to do with his passion for you; just because he is involved with another woman doesn’t mean he loves you any less.
A man can be very much in love with you and still cheat and even go ahead to fall in love with his mistress because he loves his mistress doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you; it just happens like that.
A married man is still a man, and like all men, he will miss his lover. But unlike his single counterparts, a married man will rarely look for his mistress when he misses her.
However, he will miss her, more than he likes to admit.
Mama Nkima is a marriage counselor and relationship expert who has dedicated her life to helping couples build strong, healthy relationships. She has academic degrees in Education and Psychology. She has over 40 years of experience helping couples and individuals work through their relationship issues.
She draws on her own experiences as a spiritual guide but also from years of research to offer readers practical, actionable advice.