Often care from married men to mistresses is just an act. But Much as it is an act, It is not rocket science to determine if a married man cares for you or not. Unless he won an Oscar in acting. Catching him in his own act is as simple as following some of the suggested signs in this writing. In this writing, Mama Nkima reveals to you subtle signs on how to tell if someone likes you but is hiding it.
A married man cares for you if he takes you to meet his family. He thinks of you as a team player and he uses words such as “We”. He enjoys the company of your friends. He’s not afraid to engage in a battle for you if necessary.
1. He shows you to his family
Marriage is about showing friends and family a person you chose to be your significant other for the rest of your life. A married man shows you to his family is a sign that:
- He is not happy in his current marital relationship.
- It’s about time, He plans to officially end his marriage.
- He has had conversation about all the difficulties in his marriage with his family even before he introduced you to them.
- Your man most definitely plans to replace you with her.
- He is committing to you and is assuring you it’s not about anything else other than seriously caring for you as his soon to be wife.
So another good sign he cares for you is when he takes you to meet his family.
2. He Uses “We” Referring to you and him in your Conversations
Only a man who truly cares about you would think of you as a team player.
If he sees you as a team player, In his conversations about your relationship, He would often use the word “We”. He sees you as a team member and he makes it a point to show you how he feels about your presence in his life.
3. He leaves his wife for you
The most ardent way for a married man to prove his love for you – is to leave his wife for you.
We can talk about all these other signs and reasons to determine if he cares about you and your feelings, but unless he leaves her for you – chances are he won’t leave her for you.
You may want to read about signs he will never leave his wife for you.
Never the less, He is madly in love with you if he makes you his wife and still does everything for you.
4. Your family and friends love him
Your family and friends know you very well. They know your strength as well as your weakness.
For people who know you well, it’s easy for them to identify qualities in a man that well compliments your strength and weaknesses.
When the family and friends that know you very well believe that you two are right for each other, it just assures he is more than just a married boyfriend. Whatever attribute they picked from his behavior, is for keeps.
You know a married man is serious about you if your family and friends believe you two complement each other well and they love him.
5. He Meets with your friends or family
You know a married man cares for you if enjoy the company of your friends. A sign that he is interested in you as a whole and considering a future with you.
If you are in love with a married co-worker or any married man for that matter for quite some time and declines to be out in mixed company with you. It is worrisome.
As worrisome, as it is when a man you love declines to meet with your relatives or friends.
It is a sign that man is not serious with you and he does not care for you. He is playing with you.
He is waiting for when you are tired of waiting so he can grab another woman to fiddle with.
Unfortunately, many men seem to feel it is perfectly ok to play with a woman and throw her away.
6. He gets protective when he thinks someone hurt you
A man who is serious about you will do anything for you. He would avoid a fight when possible, but he’s not afraid to engage in a battle for you if necessary.
A married man cares for you if he does things that make you feel safe when you are in and out of his presence.
Things such as:
- Protecting your heart.
- When he commits, he keeps it.
- He calls when he says he’s going to call
- Keeping boundaries when he talks to other women.
- He lets no pride keep him from apologizing when he makes a mistake
You know he is serious about you when he makes you feel, he knows the value of your heart.
If he cares about you, he’ll do anything to protect you and make you feel secure.
This is one of the clearest signs that a married man genuinely cares about you.
7. He is Patient with you
Not all men can handle women’s emotions. Only a married man that cares for you would understand and be patient to your specifics.
Don’t let him go if he understands you and shows signs of patience with you.
Married men are good at acting patience, but most of them would stay a bit and aim to get what he wants from then he flees.
Only a married man who cares enough will be willing to wait on you. To him its not just about sex with you.
If all you want is just to have sex with a married man, check how to make a married man want you sexually.
Related: All about sleeping with a married man
8. He includes you in his plans
Another sign a married man cares for you is if he uses words that include you in his plans. Words such as:
- Let’s plan for this.
- We can do it together
- Let’s go on this trip together
The fact that he’s open and forthright regarding his desire to initiate long-term plans with you is an indicator of just how serious he is
A partner who loves you and wants a life with you will be happy to start to plan for it.
9. He is happy for your achievements
A man who does not care about you – does not care about what you do. As a result, its common behavior for a man who does not care about you to not notice when something good comes your way.
Being friends with a married man who cares about you, should in part mean he sees you. But also he should be a man that sees your achievements and be happy as well as excited for you.
Such a man is for keeps. Because he is unlike some other men who would feel jealous of a woman’s achievements over them.
10. He compliments you out of the blue
Sincere well placed compliments from someone you care about (your married boyfriend) show that he values your traits. A person who shows you that he values your traits is a sign of care.
If your significant other notices your traits and compliments them where necessary. This shows he is interested in you, he keeps an eye on you and everything that you do.
Compliments reinforce the idea that your partner loves what you do and you are a great match for each other quite well.
A Compliment provide valuable and positive feedback to your partner.
Sincere compliments can also be used as a tool to determine what aspect of your life is your partner more interested in.
- Your personality?
- Does he compliment Humor more?
- Is it your Intelligence?
- He compliments your competence in holding a relationship.
If your married lover only compliments your appearance, it indicates that he or she places an overly high value on physical characteristics.
While it can certainly be flattering to know your partner finds you physically attractive, if that’s all he focuses on, it also could be a red flag indicating he is not really into you. Look out for signs he will leave his wife for you.
11 He remembers the little things.
Tell him a joke about your life as a teenager, Will he remember every detail about it after a while?
Go for a cup of coffee, will he remember your preferences next time you go for a cup of coffee?
Is he doing his best to be your best next of keen?
If you answered yes to the questions above, then that man is for keeps.
Mama Nkima says It takes a person who is serious about you to want to know everything there is to know about you.
12. He loves talking to you
Another sign a married man likes you more than a friend is when he enjoys your company and finds you amusing.
A person enjoys talking to you if he like your personality and finds you interesting, fun, and comfortable to be around.
Mama Nkima says a married man cares for you if he thoroughly enjoys formally exchanging ideas via spoken or written words with you.
13. He’s attentive to all your needs.
A guy who cares about your pleasure is definitely for keeps. Only a sincere married man will truly prioritize your needs. We all need honest men.
Yes, even if he is married and still hits on you – it’s a mutual endeavor so – he still needs to care about your feelings.
As long as from there on he is honest about everything it means he truly cares about you.
He is serious about you if he does not play mind games. It means he is scared to hurt your feelings.
Does this describe your man? consider your self lucky, he cares for you.
14. He either shares details about his married life
Countless men in this world secretly suffer bullying and abuse by their wives. They are not happy, satisfied, fulfilled.
For a man to confess to anyone that he’s being bullied or abused in marriage requires an enormous amount of vulnerability.
Many will suffer in privacy without anyone to confide into. It takes more than a physical connection for a man to finally share there emotional, and physical abuse they suffer in there marriages.
If you find your self at the receiving side of complex emotions such as pain, shame, and isolation endured by a married man from his wife, its a sign that man confides in you.
Mama Nkima says Men find it hard to talk about conversations that reveal the theft of there manhood.
A married man confiding details of abuse in his marriage to you is a sign that his marriage is out of control and most of the time, it can not be saved and he is in the process of deciding whats next.
15. He goes out of his way to help you
A married man truly cares for you if he goes out of his ways to make you comfortable.
He is serious about you if your happiness is more important to him that his and puts your interests first. Men are natural-born providers. That’s how they are wired.
So you know your married friend cares about you if he makes sure he uses his provider instincts to help you achieve whatever it is you are trying to achieve.
Mama Nkima says – This becomes even more apparent at workplaces.
- Does my coworker like me?
- Well Does he always go out of his way to help you with your assignments?
- Does he only do it for you but not other coworkers?
Be careful – that married man might be truly falling in love with you.
16. He tries to highlight the similarities between the two of you
Similar to complimenting you, Its a sign a married man likes you more than just a friend if he tries so hard to point out things you have in common.
Relationships are more about compatibility. The more you have in common, the more valuable you become to him.
You only know about such value if he makes a point in making you aware of it.
Mama Nkima says Be very cautious of face value similarities though. Make sure when he does say, its sincere and not just another hoax to drop your pants.
17. He wants to see you happy.
A married man who truly cares about you will not let anything upset you.
He makes it his duty to learn what you like and dislike. He will make sure he puts in all the necessary effort to make you smile and feel happy.
Another subtle sign he’s falling for you. You know he cares for you if he does all the above without any sign of possessiveness.
18. He takes out time especially for you
Mistresses are known to be lonely on important days such as Thanksgiving, Christmas, and many more family days as there married lovers chose to spend those days with their families.
Does your married boyfriend make time to be with you on those special days and not his wife? If yes then that man is madly in love with you.
If there is one thing that gives a married man in multiple relationships a hard time to do – it is creating time for his mistress.
For married men, time is well calculated, known, and shared amongst his family.
It’s the norm all his time should be about his family and not you. a married man cares for you if he chooses to be with you in times in which he should have been with his family.
If you are in love with a married co-worker who outside of working time, still has time to be with you or even spend nights with you without lying to everyone – It’s a sign you are not just being friends with a married man. That man seriously cares for you.
19. He asks you for your Advice
If there is one best way to show that a married man cares about you, it is listening and paying attention.
Look out for a sign in him about possessing the ability to listen and values your opinions.
Men tend to wait for their turn to speak. It is hard to find a man who actively listens to what a woman has to say.
If your married man is a kind that waits for his turn to talk, and never values your pieces of advice – This man does not care for you.
He is obsessed with you if he shows you the importance of communication by caring about your stuff – not only his stuff.
Mama Nkima says – A married man is seriously falling in love with you if whenever you share to him what you are going through, he pays attention and does things to make you feel better.
He gives top priority to your opinions
20. He stays in touch with you regularly
Not just because he wants sex, romance, fun, pleasure or entertainment from you, A married man who keeps his tabs no you regularly even in the time that he should spend with his family, is a sign of a man that is jealous of leaving you, but also a sign that this married man wants you.
20 Signs a married man cares for you
- He shows you to his family
- He leaves his wife for you
- Your family and friends love him
- He Meets with your friends or family
- He gets protective when he thinks someone hurt you
- He is Patient with you
- He includes you in his plans
- He is happy for your achievements
- He compliments you out of the blue
- He remembers the little things.
- He loves talking to you
- He’s attentive to all your needs.
- He either shares details about his married life
- He goes out of his way to help you
- He tries to highlight the similarities between the two of you
- He wants to see you happy.
- He takes out time especially for you
- He asks you for your Advice
- He stays in touch with you regularly
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